Hahaha..
Gue sok tua ya bahas Parenting issue kayak gini :p
Actually, i'm just thinking that the parenting issues are the thing that every future-parents need to concern about.. Nowadays, social life has rapidly changes.. Unavoidable, that drives great impact even to the environment of parent and kid. I'm just talking this case in Indonesia or maybe in other developing countries which i believe that freedom of speech might seldom to be implemented.
What i'm thinking is parent should adjust the way their thinking and behave to their kids. Wait.. Wait.. I might sound so stupid to say that.
But the thing is banyak aturan yang sebenernya ga bisa lagi untuk diimplementasi ke jaman sekarang..
What? Why?
Hmmm... contoh yg paling gampang, dulu orang tua selalu melarang anaknya pacaran dulu klo masih sekolah.. Do u think that rule still possible to be implemented nowadays? Hahahaha.. Non sense.
What?
See, to deal with some changes, there are 2 possibilities which might happen. Denial of change and adjust the mind set.
Denial of change is the most frequently condition which will be happened to deal with changes, and the second one, gue rasa sih jarang banget orang bisa mikir begitu..
Why?
IDK, i'm just thinking everything needs to be balanced.
Gue akan salut buat orang tua yang mau ngerti kondisi psikis anak mereka. Most of parents are asking to be respected, loved and understood by their kids but they never respect, love and understand first.
And most of them will act as dictator.
What they say is must and always right. When they have mistake, they don't care and they will not say sorry for the mistakes.
Kenapa harus begitu sih ya?
Good communication always has feedback.
Apalagi ya, as i mentioned above.. Social life has massive changes nowadays.
Yah, menurut gue sih akan jauh lebih baik klo orang tua mau belajar sedikit lebih peka ke anak2 nya.. Jangan selalu menuntut tapi juga mensupport, jangan selalu memaki klo mereka salah tapi juga bisa kasih compliment when they just do some pleasant things.
Udah bukan jamannya lagi semua hal diselesaiin dengan kekerasan verbal apalagi fisik.
Mental anak2 sekarang menurut gue sih cenderung ke pemberontak, nekat, yah whatever the name is... Kadang klo dikerasin, jadi nya ya.. they will attack the parents back..
If so, why don't the parent and the kid have a seat together and discuss the problem.. figure the way out to solve the problem?
Parents, check this link http://www.parentingscience.com/ out. Hope that could help u to find out the way to deal with ur kids..
Gue yakin klo udah bisa diterapin hal-hal kayak gitu ga bakal ada lagi yang namanya kekerasan verbal apalagi fisik.
Yah tetep sih anak juga harus terapin yang namanya respek, itu ga bisa dan ga boleh diilangin..
The reason why i'm wring the post of this is to let people know how to deal with their kid, especially their girl/boy.
Anak dan orang tua punya kewajiban dan hak. Dan adil adalah membagi 2 hal itu sesuai porsinya masing-masing..
Gue sok tua ya bahas Parenting issue kayak gini :p
Actually, i'm just thinking that the parenting issues are the thing that every future-parents need to concern about.. Nowadays, social life has rapidly changes.. Unavoidable, that drives great impact even to the environment of parent and kid. I'm just talking this case in Indonesia or maybe in other developing countries which i believe that freedom of speech might seldom to be implemented.
What i'm thinking is parent should adjust the way their thinking and behave to their kids. Wait.. Wait.. I might sound so stupid to say that.
But the thing is banyak aturan yang sebenernya ga bisa lagi untuk diimplementasi ke jaman sekarang..
What? Why?
Hmmm... contoh yg paling gampang, dulu orang tua selalu melarang anaknya pacaran dulu klo masih sekolah.. Do u think that rule still possible to be implemented nowadays? Hahahaha.. Non sense.
What?
See, to deal with some changes, there are 2 possibilities which might happen. Denial of change and adjust the mind set.
Denial of change is the most frequently condition which will be happened to deal with changes, and the second one, gue rasa sih jarang banget orang bisa mikir begitu..
Why?
IDK, i'm just thinking everything needs to be balanced.
Gue akan salut buat orang tua yang mau ngerti kondisi psikis anak mereka. Most of parents are asking to be respected, loved and understood by their kids but they never respect, love and understand first.
And most of them will act as dictator.
What they say is must and always right. When they have mistake, they don't care and they will not say sorry for the mistakes.
Kenapa harus begitu sih ya?
Good communication always has feedback.
Apalagi ya, as i mentioned above.. Social life has massive changes nowadays.
Yah, menurut gue sih akan jauh lebih baik klo orang tua mau belajar sedikit lebih peka ke anak2 nya.. Jangan selalu menuntut tapi juga mensupport, jangan selalu memaki klo mereka salah tapi juga bisa kasih compliment when they just do some pleasant things.
Udah bukan jamannya lagi semua hal diselesaiin dengan kekerasan verbal apalagi fisik.
Mental anak2 sekarang menurut gue sih cenderung ke pemberontak, nekat, yah whatever the name is... Kadang klo dikerasin, jadi nya ya.. they will attack the parents back..
If so, why don't the parent and the kid have a seat together and discuss the problem.. figure the way out to solve the problem?
Parents, check this link http://www.parentingscience.com/ out. Hope that could help u to find out the way to deal with ur kids..
Gue yakin klo udah bisa diterapin hal-hal kayak gitu ga bakal ada lagi yang namanya kekerasan verbal apalagi fisik.
Yah tetep sih anak juga harus terapin yang namanya respek, itu ga bisa dan ga boleh diilangin..
The reason why i'm wring the post of this is to let people know how to deal with their kid, especially their girl/boy.
Anak dan orang tua punya kewajiban dan hak. Dan adil adalah membagi 2 hal itu sesuai porsinya masing-masing..
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